How we choose to speak to others is crucial in determining how they interpret the messages sent through spoken language. Even the simplest statements can affect another person in a negative or positive way, depending on the words used to convey the message. Word patterns in spoken language have power when they influence others (Adler and Proctor, 2014). Word choices in communication determine the degree of confidence (or lack thereof), politeness, and urgency conveyed by the listener. A statement means the same thing no matter how it is phrased. However, tone of voice and words chosen are instrumental in getting others to comply and respect what has been said. When speaking to others, it is more desirable to appear confident and certain than to appear hesitant and apologetic. Assertive language establishes power, making the speaker appear competent and appropriate when communicating with others (McFayden, 1997). The following statements are two different ways of communicating about the same issue: “Hey, uh… Maybe I forgot to do my chores today because I had a lot on my plate. Would it maybe be okay if I made them after work tonight? » “I didn't get a chance to do my chores today. I was busy earlier, but I'll make sure to do them after work. » Both statements effectively convey the same message, but the second is more concise and states the issue with aplomb and confidence. People often don't realize that in some circumstances, when they communicate with others and try to appear gentle or polite, they come across as not being authoritative or afraid to simply say the right thing. be said. Add words to tone down the directness. The meaning of speech in communication is the most...... middle of paper ......s to respect, but it is important when considering respect for others and dignity of oneself. It is essential to be patient and understand the feelings of others when speaking. Implementing politeness and respect in speech is the best way to get a message across as effectively as possible. Works CitedAdler, R. and Proctor, R. (2014) Looking Out Looking In. Boston, MA: Wadsworth Cengage LearningMcFayden, RG (1997). The relationship between powerless speech, agentic behavior, and quantity of speech. Journal of Social Psychology, 137(4), 470-479. Roloff, M. (1998). The interpretation of coercive communication: the effects of the mode of influence, powerful speech and the authority of the speaker. International Journal of Conflict Management, 9(2), 139-161. Simpson, B. (2004). Bridging differences through dialogue: a constructivist perspective. Journal of Constructivist Psychology, 17(1), 45-59.