Parents begin to fear even their children, who are capable of sending them to prison. This builds relationships based on distrust, further alienating people and disabling the ability to form social connections. This is best depicted in the scene where Winston visits his neighbors, the Parsons. Mrs. Parsons is visibly shaken the entire time, as her children watch their conversation intently. It seems ridiculous to be afraid of children, especially your own children, but since the children saw their own father thrown in prison, it makes sense that Mrs. Parsons would feel afraid and distant from her children. While everyone feels alone and alienated under the vigilant gaze of their big brother, they have no other choice but to build the only relationship and the only possible bond, with that of their oppressor. The knowledge that the Thought Police are monitoring every movement of citizens influences the masses towards a "norm" of constant state of fear and discipline, resulting in extreme loyalty to Big Brother. Additionally, because people have no idea when they are being observed, they learn to behave as if they are always under surveillance. This turns people into their own forms of panoptic gaze, controlling their own thoughts and actions out of fear of possible surveillance. Foucault speaks of “becoming the bearers of our own oppression”. In addition to establishing a standard of behavior, the panoptic gaze and thought police also exert deadly force on those who display what they consider to be abnormal behavior. When Winston and a woman named Julia from his workplace commit the crime of falling in love and starting a relationship as an act of rebellion, the Thought Police capture them and take them to the Ministry of Love. Ironically, here they are tortured until there is no feeling of love or betrayal left..