Borderline Personality Disorder "is defined in the DSM IV, a manual used by psychiatrists to diagnose all mental disorders, as an AXIS II disorder that presents symptoms of dysregulation impulsive and emotional” (Livesley 146). A person with BPD experiences feelings of abandonment and emptiness and makes "frantic efforts to avoid abandonment, going to extremes to prevent someone from leaving" (Burger 300). He or she is emotionally unstable and forms intense but unstable interpersonal relationships. They exhibit impulsive behaviors, such as spending money, having sex, eating, and abusing substances. Borderline people engage in self-manipulative behaviors and recurrent suicidal attempts and thoughts. “Their behavior can be seen as an maladaptive method of coping with constant emotional pain” (Livesley 144). “Personality includes those aspects of a person's thinking, mood, and behavior that affect his or her relationships with others” (Livesley 98). Differences in personality style (traits) add color and variety to relationships, but can become too extreme, inflexible, or maladaptive, significantly impairing a person's ability to function. When a person is not able to deal with people or problems in the environment, they are said to have a personality disorder (Livesley 99). “Originally, the term borderline was used to refer to individuals whose adjustment fell on the borderline between normal and psychotic” (Holmes 393). Today, borderline personality disorder is primarily marked by instability, exhibiting different symptoms at different times. Most symptoms revolve around mood problems, mild disturbances in thought processes, and impulsive self-harming behavior (Holmes 393). All of this prevents borderline people from having interpersonal relationships. People with borderline personality disorder tend to have intense and very unstable relationships. “Frequent interpersonal conflicts, unstable and stormy relationships are characteristics of a borderline relationship; relationships generally have “characteristics of love and hate” (Durand 334). dramatic shifts between “intense love and equally intense hatred” (Durand 334) in any relationship. The fluctuations in their mood, linked to their anger, associated with their thought disorders, and mixed with their paranoid thoughts; middle of article...sometimes symptoms can go unnoticed or misunderstood. “People with BPD can often be seen as manipulative or attention-seeking (Burger 134). They can sometimes “pretend” everything is fine. “People with BPD need validation and acknowledgment of the pain they struggle to live with as well as compassion without blame or judgment (Durand 99). Family members should always take statements and threats seriously suicidal and alert a mental health professional as soon as possible "We cannot emphasize enough the education of family members (Durand 99). Families need to learn everything they can about BPD so they can advocate for appropriate treatment for their loved ones. Informed families are then better able to deal with the stigma often encountered by mental health professionals. Instability might not even do justice to the limits (Burger 199), chaotic is the best word to describe the life of a borderline person. Their lives are intense, their..