We are torn in 1,000 different directions and it all comes down to the question of who we are. There are three different options for this type of shaming. One is simply a negative voice. I think this is the most common because many people think they are too tall, fat, short, skinny, etc. What's interesting is that many of the words that can be put in place of negative words are also positive characteristics. For example: “I'm too smart, people think I'm a nerd. » Being smart is not a negative quality, but as the “ideal” balance is not found, then being smart becomes an obstacle to achieving the right result.