At my high school, the heteronormative sex culture heavily promoted masculinity through sexual behavior, resulting in a double standard between women and men. Dude, You're a Fag quotes Renold: "Students participate in a 'process of heterosexualization' in which children present themselves as 'normal' girls or boys through discourses of heterosexuality" (p. 26) . Since much of what we do in high school is about impressing others, or at least appearing within the norm to avoid insults or social exclusion, the majority of my peers (and I) made our better to integrate and respect the rules. standards. Men's popularity was based largely on the frequency of sexual behavior and the "attractiveness" of the girl with whom they had intimate relations. Pascoe points out that “boys and girls engage in interactional rituals to acquire masculine identities, which are, in large part, based on similar homophobic and heterosexualizing processes” (p. 28). This describes very well how we interact with each other at my high school. Conversely, the more people women had sex with, the more negative social reactions they experienced. According to Stombler and Baunach (2014), highly sexually active men are generally not subject to shame and are sometimes praised for their sexual behavior, while women with “too many” partners are stigmatized (p. 71). While men are socialized to present their masculinity through sexuality, women grow up learning all the negative consequences of sexuality. Nestlé's My Mother Liked to Fuck highlights the social consequences that come from being a woman open to having sex (1983). These consequences include harsh judgments, social exclusion and even rape. Lorde's The Uses of the Erotic shows that sexuality is something women learn to hide (2016). I remember being told I was a “slut” because I kissed someone and slept on the same couch.